We may be communicating in a superficial way, not noticing the many layers or aspects behind a powerful conversation. What is true is that the way in which you communicate with others will impact the relationship between you and them.
Here are 7 tips that can guide you to an improvement in your conversations with others:
1. Know your theme
What is the subject of what you would like to communicate to the other(s) person? Understanding ahead of time what you are communicating so you can project it to the other(s) in an effective way. The other person will be able to understand you better and see your point of view more clearly.
2. Deep Listening
Listen from a state of presence or shuniya – the point of 0 or stillness. This will make you more receptive to understanding the needs of the other and listening to your own process and your own inner voice. You will be able to listen in a compassionate way and you will also be more clear to your own response to the other. You will hear what is said and what is not being said.
3. What is your purpose?
What are your needs for communicating with the other person? Whether you are communicating in a work meeting or during a relationship, having clarity of your purpose will give you the ability to speak clearly and effectively. Notice your energy and emotions when you speak. Are you feeling nervous, excited, grounded? The most successful conversation is between two people who are clear-minded and calm. If you are calm when speaking and listening you will be able to have a non-reactive response.
4. Notice your energy
Speak from your heart to the other’s heart. This is a faculty of an Aquarian leader, one who speaks and projects from the heart in a compassionate and understanding way. Like this, you can reach the other person’s understanding and compassion for yourself and your word. This will create an inevitable co-creation of success during the communication.
5. Try to communicate in little sentences (no more than eleven words), and give space between a sentence.
Be aware of the pace of your words and sentences. Give time to the other person to process the information they are receiving. The right words will come to you if you are in a present state, thus, the more impact and projection they will have.
6. Notice the tone of your voice
How do you like to be spoken to? In turn, speak to the other(s) as you would like to be spoken to. We don’t use the same tone of voice when we speak with a lover as when we are communicating with a colleague during a meeting. Also, perhaps an elderly may need you to speak a little louder. When we are in tune with our higher self (the self which is present and clear-minded), not our reactive or emotional self, we can communicate from a place of self-trust. We are able to bear witness to the conversation and the needs of the other person (or people) we are communicating with. We will be going even deeper into this topic in our Conscious Communication 100% online starting July 2021. The course is not only for Kundalini yogis but for everyone who is interested in conscious relating and communication.
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Written by Isabel de Erice
Based on the teachings of Yogi Bhajan
Gurucharan Singh Khalsa, Ph.D., Tarn Taran Kaur Khalsa, Nirvair Singh Khalsa,
Guruka Singh Khalsa, Kundalini Training Level Two Conscious Communication
Manual, Kundalini Research Institute, 2006
Inspired by Siri Ram Kaur Khalsa article.