A short look into the art of communication.
How can we become more effective communicators? What are the factors of a successful conversation? By communicating in a conscious way we will be able to transform our relationships with others and have a meaningful impact on our connections.
The following points are an introduction to some of the points we will explore on our Level Two Teacher Training in Conscious Communication.
1. Deep listening – Sunnia
One of the main key points for a conscious conversation is listening from presence and being in an alert state to truly hear and receive the other person(s). We are then able to hear the other person’s words and intentions clearly. We can, in turn, speak every word with intention and purpose. This state of presence is called Sunnia. ‘It is an act of applied consciousness’ says Guruchan Khalsa, in our Level Two Teacher Training Manual. We can come to this state of complete presence with practices like meditation and mindfulness.
Your state of being will have an impact on the communication and the best way for the conversation to be effective is if you are feeling well, relaxed and present – and the same goes for the other person. In reality, this may not always be possible, we can only try our best and chose when or when not to have that important meeting or conversation or by being prepared in advance.
2. Check in with yourself and the other person before the conversation, during the conversation and after the conversation
Are you holding any physical tension in the body before or during the conversation? Is your energy flowing through your body or does it feel stagnant in some areas? Perhaps you need to stretch or go for a walk. Do you and the other person have their needs met? Does the person(s) in front of you need anything, are they in a receptive state for a conversation? These are some of the questions to check in with if you are going to have an important conversation with someone.
3. Identify and deliver your intention
By identifying the purpose of the reason you are communicating today, you will be able to communicate more clearly and effectively. The other person will receive and understand your intentions and/or purpose and they will respond accordingly. One way to express this is by being more direct with our communication and using fewer words to do so.
4. Use a rhythm and pause between your words
The cycles in the cosmos, including the lunar and seasonal cycle all have rhythms and hold the key to a natural rhythm. You could say they are in a flow state, and everything around it acts accordingly in response to the natural flow of life. When you communicate with words that are flowing, you naturally say what you really mean. There is direct and effective communication and response to the other and we become aware of each word we speak and of each word we hear.
5. For communication and mutual understanding, your presence and silence are some of the most powerful attributes.
Check in with how you feel, as explained in number 2. When you communicate, listen to how the other person is feeling and receiving your words and your being. When our presence and aura (or magnetic field) are strong, our very presence will create an impact on others. They say ‘an image is worth a thousand words’, and this may also go with our presence.
6. Empathize with the person in front of you
When we use empathy to communicate with the person in front of us, we are seeing the whole being and their needs. In this way, we are considering them rather than just communicating our wants, and actually, you will be more likely to get what you want without realizing it.
Conscious communication is an art. If we manage to communicate from consciousness rather than with our emotions or reactivity, our needs can be met more easily and we can meet the other person(s) needs better. We can also use empathy and understanding as tools to create a strong connection between you and the other. This will have a major impact on the relationships in your life in a most positive direction.
We will be diving deeper into this topic in our Conscious Communication Course in July. To learn more about the course copy and paste the link below or email us if you have any questions at firstname.lastname@example.org.
For a complete state of presence and to communicate clearly and effectively practice this meditation:
Meditation into thoughtlessness with Ramdesh by SpiritVoyage
Written by Isabel de Erice
Based on the teachings of Yogi Bhajan
Reference Material: Gurucharan Singh Khalsa, Ph.D., Tarn Taran Kaur Khalsa, Nirvair Singh Khalsa, Guruka Singh Khalsa, Kundalini Training Level Two Conscious Communication Manual, Kundalini Research Institute, 2006